Couples Counseling
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It's a common misconception that arguing signals a troubled relationship. In truth, even happy couples have disagreements—arguing is a form of communication. I can work with you to make your disputes more constructive, respectful, and, over time, less frequent. By integrating Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we can pinpoint and defuse the negative cycles of conflict while fostering renewed emotional intimacy, particularly after trust has been broken. Additionally, the Gottman Method offers practical strategies to reconnect, manage conflicts, build trust and commitment, and pursue shared life goals.
It's important to know that I view your relationship as the client and do not take sides. Both of you are hurting in your own way, and blaming one person or the other is not helpful. We will work on the problem, not your problem.
There are countless reasons couples pursue counseling, and seeking help doesn't mean you’ve failed. Your relationship with your partner is likely among the most significant ones in your life. It's worth the effort to rediscover the happiness you once shared.
Premarital Counseling
Are you someone who tries to put together furniture or set up a new computer without reading the instructions, only to be frustrated when it falls apart or doesn’t work properly? The same thing can happen if you begin your life with someone without learning as much as you can about each other and how you relate to one another. Seeking premarital counseling doesn’t mean there is something wrong with your relationship, it means you are intentional about starting strong to better navigate the inevitable ups and downs of married life. We will dive into issues that may become obstacles later on, such as conflict resolution, finances, extended family, children, careers, intimacy, or issues that you may be bringing into the marriage from past relationships, childhood challenges, or trauma. During our work together, we will not only discuss challenges but also the strengths each of you brings to the relationship.
I recommend starting with 3-6 sessions, after which we can reassess whether you'd like to continue if there's more to explore. Additionally, I suggest planning a follow-up session a few months post-wedding. There's also an optional online relationship assessment available for about $35, which we can use as a helpful guide during our sessions.
Statistics vary, but most point to a much lower divorce rate for couples who sought premarital education than those who did not. Think of it as a small investment with a huge return for your marriage.
Betrayal Recovery
What is betrayal trauma?
Betrayal trauma occurs when there's a profound breach of trust with someone important to us. This might involve infidelity, financial secrets, dishonesty, or other trust violations. What sets betrayal trauma apart is that it arises when the betrayer is someone we depend on for love, security, or protection, such as a parent or romantic partner. Following this breach of trust, you might experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), such as feeling disoriented, anxious, depressed, angry, or unworthy. Physical symptoms can include headaches, high blood pressure, insomnia, stomachaches, or other forms of pain, as your body enters a Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fix mode, making emotional regulation difficult. Over time, you might also face long-term effects like a weakened immune system and elevated cortisol levels, a stress hormone. You could become hypervigilant, always on the lookout for potential threats in your environment or in your partner's actions.
How do I get through this?
We'll start by focusing on emotional regulation to help you understand and navigate the complex feelings you're experiencing. When you're overwhelmed by intense thoughts, making long-term decisions can be challenging. I'll guide you in processing and managing both physical and emotional symptoms, paving the way for healing to begin. Afterward, we'll explore the impact of betrayal on your well-being and discuss steps toward recovery. Healing from betrayal trauma can occur through individual therapy or couples therapy. Having your partner participate in the healing process can be beneficial if they are willing and open to attending therapy sessions. If you're uncertain about the best path forward, don't hesitate to reach out, and together, we can determine the most suitable approach for you.
Families
Family relationships can go through difficult times. Our specialized approach in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) focuses on rebuilding bonds, repairing conflicts, and fostering healthy communication that is essential for strong, loving connections.
- Rebuilding Relationships: We believe every family has the potential for growth and understanding. Together, we will explore the root causes of conflict and implement strategies to rebuild trust and strengthen bonds.
- Repairing Conflict: Conflict is a natural part of relationships, but it doesn’t have to be destructive. Our approach helps you navigate disagreements constructively, turning conflict into an opportunity for connection and growth.
- Effective Communication: Communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. We teach practical tools and techniques for expressing needs, feelings, and concerns openly and respectfully.
- Exploring Forgiveness: Holding onto past grievances can weigh heavily on family dynamics. In our sessions, we provide a safe space to explore feelings of hurt and disappointment, guiding you towards the path of forgiveness and healing.
Our Approach
We offer a compassionate, collaborative approach tailored to meet your family’s unique needs. Through a combination of individual and family sessions, we aim to create an atmosphere of understanding and support. Our evidence-based approaches are designed to support you and provide you with the skills necessary for long-term relationship healing and success.
Women's Issues
Women often face unique struggles related to relationships, career, and self-identity, and we are here to help you find clarity, empowerment, and balance
Focus Areas Include:
- Parenting Anxiety: Parenting can be both rewarding and challenging! If you struggle with fears about your parenting abilities or are seeking guidance through the complexities of raising children, we are here to support you.
- Work Anxiety: Balancing professional demands with personal life can be overwhelming. We assist women who are struggling with work-related anxiety, helping you develop strategies to cope with stressors, enhance work-life balance, and achieve your career goals.
- Phase of Life Struggles: Transitions such as becoming a new mother, returning to work after maternity leave, or facing empty nest syndrome can create uncertainty and stress. We work with you to navigate these phases with confidence and resilience.
- Relationship Challenges: Whether you’re experiencing difficulties in your romantic relationship, friendships, or family dynamics, we provide a safe space to explore these issues. We help you understand the underlying patterns, improve communication, and develop healthier relationships.
- Marital Concerns: Marriage can bring joy as well as challenges. We can help address issues within marriage, including communication difficulties, intimacy concerns, and navigating life changes together.
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